A very interesting read indeed and def agree sort of to answers to both sides - I am suffering the no sex trauma at the moment also - "WHY" because she can deprive me of that. Whether its change of life or she has no desire for me anymore, she may even have someone on the side who knows, but for a guy who does love his sex it is NOT good and certainly makes a male you consider all options when the darling wife not even give you the decency of discussing this issue, no reason just turn it off - I have recently been looking at the options of an escort or an affair. We are both in our late 40s - both look great for our age and have had a great life to date, we travel os extensively for holidays, beautiful home and cars, 3 great kids we have been very fortunate in life with running our own business, but i would give it all away to have the relationship back - with passion and affection. I have not had sex now for 6 months which is driving me crazy and i have been very patient and not pushed the issue to where it would make matters worse. Ladies that do deprive their husbands for sex or use it as a tool for what ever should seriously think about the possible consequences if they value their marraige because believe me when i say i have never ever contemplated cheating, i have always valued my fidelity in my marraige UNTIL NOW which is concerning me because this is not my style and i know im getting very close to doing what i the un thinkable . I can understand if the wife or partner are not well or having emotional melt down etc, but when there appears to be nothing physically or mentaly wrong is certainly asking for trouble.  Maybe i will start checking the CC statements maybe she got in before i did - to the ladies who have the shoe on the other foot well if you want to square up - Im sure i will be available real soon - take care and dont slap em about the head to much

Well, I just found the number on my man's bank statement too....wtf?

its your neighbors wife, its the bosses sister. Its more common than you think. If there not on there, they are finding lovers thru friends and work.  So many people are having or had affairs. It is very common. but no one is saying so.

Hey, you pissed-spouses, suprised your man is going elsewhere? Serves you right.You can't setup a contract for monogamy (marriage) and still use sex a bargaining chip. Here's a quote i like:"My mother said it was simple to keep a man, you must be a maid in the living room, a cook in the kitchen and a [***] in the bedroom.  I said I'd hire the other two and take care of the bedroom bit."  ~Jerry Hall

I can use many angry words here to describe how I feel about some other comments that women and wives are to blame for affairs. A marriage works both ways, if a wife is not sleeping with her husband, thats because the husband is not desirable anymore. Yeah, guys when you let yourselves go we tend to tolerate it because of love I suppose but if you think we will tolerate you not acting like a gentleman and open doors for us and romance us, then we are not spreading our legs for your smelly icky nether parts.
This comment is only to "Double Life" being married and having a lot of sex is despicable. If you were my husband I would chop your d*ck off and feed it to you. You are tired of your spouse and don't want to work on it, you leave the relationship. For all you know they probably want the same thing just dont want to be the first to say anything. You men act as if we women actually care if you stay or go, if you want more than leave the keys and get out. Yes we damn well deserve the house, we're the ones who clean it and maintain it.
Side note, no one has ever been happy leaving an honest wife. They have always been dissapointed in the fling they thought was their soul mate, however you do the honest wife a great service when you get yourself out of the picture.

To "Pissed Wife" ... the charges are not for hookers. They were for the ability to send a message to someone. Ashley Madison does not allow anyone to send a message unless they buy credits. They have sneaky ways of getting people to pay. The fact that you saw 2 charges of $80 probably means that he sent out a few messages, no one replied, and then he had to go and buy more credits in order to send more messages and try again.