Way to help the bastards. The spouse will always find out. My husband had a separate credit card and it appeared on our online banking screen.  Stupid a**. I printed the statement and got the 800 number, the card number, and the zip code. Been separated for a year and can still listen to his charges to an escort service. Liars are always caught.

1. set up a paypal account and deposit funds in there.
or
1. get a prepaid debit 'visa check' card.
(tell your spouse it was a gift, if you must --- just don't tell her it was a gift to yourself for good sex.

1a. Earn some extra cash... sell something on ebay, start a side business (easy enough to do w/as many affiliate programs there are.)

2. Put the income onto the check card and EL...Media (looks like ADVERTISING in the sales ledger)

3. You know you're business is working when you get free hookups & it pays for itself.

Make more $$, quit your dayjob.

cheers!

I can use many angry words here to describe how I feel about some other comments that women and wives are to blame for affairs. A marriage works both ways, if a wife is not sleeping with her husband, thats because the husband is not desirable anymore. Yeah, guys when you let yourselves go we tend to tolerate it because of love I suppose but if you think we will tolerate you not acting like a gentleman and open doors for us and romance us, then we are not spreading our legs for your smelly icky nether parts. This comment is only to "Double Life" being married and having a lot of sex is despicable. If you were my husband I would chop your d*ck off and feed it to you. You are tired of your spouse and don't want to work on it, you leave the relationship. For all you know they probably want the same thing just dont want to be the first to say anything. You men act as if we women actually care if you stay or go, if you want more than leave the keys and get out. Yes we damn well deserve the house, we're the ones who clean it and maintain it. Side note, no one has ever been happy leaving an honest wife. They have always been dissapointed in the fling they thought was their soul mate, however you do the honest wife a great service when you get yourself out of the picture.

What an a****** u r

Hey, you pissed-spouses, suprised your man is going elsewhere? Serves you right.You can't setup a contract for monogamy (marriage) and still use sex a bargaining chip. Here's a quote i like:"My mother said it was simple to keep a man, you must be a maid in the living room, a cook in the kitchen and a [***] in the bedroom.  I said I'd hire the other two and take care of the bedroom bit."  ~Jerry Hall

What an [***]**** u r