Thank goodness for the internet! My wife kept dodging the issue when I tried to confront her about the $250 bill to ADL.  She told me it was a birthday present for me. I was shocked to learn it was for an affair website.  Curosity got the best of me so I signed on for a profile just to see if I could find her. When I did I was appaled by what I saw.  Now here I am angered and hurt and feel the love has been drained from our marriage. I don't know what to do at this point. We have kids and I would hate to put my kids through that. And because of that I think I'll remain a silient victim and let her have her stupid affiars.

That seems like a lot of work.  Maybe instead of spending all your time on hunting all this down, you should have spent it having sex with your husband, so he wouldn't need to look elsewhere.

well you a touch delusional, all you women are just like adverts (false advertising) we both agree to this "marriage" or "relationship" but after you know you have us things go to the backside of f****d up. It always starts with what we both want otherwise men would not agree to the marriage. then women change but men do not and women need to realize that us men are still very "cave man" and are still very in touch with our primal side of things, like having sex. it is not what we want it's more like what we actually NEED and that statement of "if we dont find it at home we will find it somewhere else" is way more true than you want to imaging.

I just found this on MY bank statement..... NOT HAPPY.......

You deserve the house because you clean it?? Lol really??  First off, most of the problems can be found with the wives. Don't kid yourself, I know too well the games you gals play. Find a guy you think is worthy of you, play innocent and make him chase you. All the while still sleeping with your ex. Convince the future victim of undying love. Lol Then you make him misserable by continuously nagging and trying to control him, bleeding the life from him day in and day out. Not to mention all the talk with your friends and family about him being worthless or whatever. Yeah you clean the house because you clean it. Good luck with that. Lol   I've got a nest egg stashed away for when it comes time to go. She can have the house but paying for it is going to be a bi*** lol. Guys make loans from your friends, get them notarized. My soon to be ex is responsible for 80,000 of "borrowed" money. Get her to get a prescription for a drug that can be used to treat depression. I'll be living my same life style and she'll trying to pay a 2200 a month house note. See ya!

Hey, you pissed-spouses, suprised your man is going elsewhere? Serves you right.You can't setup a contract for monogamy (marriage) and still use sex a bargaining chip. Here's a quote i like:"My mother said it was simple to keep a man, you must be a maid in the living room, a cook in the kitchen and a w***e in the bedroom.  I said I'd hire the other two and take care of the bedroom bit."  ~Jerry Hall